Frequently Asked Questions
I have never talked to anyone. I’m used to handling things on my own. Are people who go to therapy considered weak?
Not at all. People who ask for help know when they need it and have the ability to reach out. Everyone needs help now and then. You already have some strengths that you’ve used before, that for whatever reason, aren’t working right now. Perhaps this problem feels overwhelming and is making it difficult to access your past strengths. In our work together, I’ll help you identify what those strengths are and how to implement them again in what is happening now.
What is the difference between talking to you or my best friend or family?
The difference is between someone who can do something and someone who has the training and experience to do that same thing professionally. A mental health professional can help you approach your situation in a new way– teach you new skills, gain different perspectives, listen to you without judgment or expectations, and help you listen to yourself. Furthermore, therapy is completely confidential. You won’t have to worry about others “knowing my business.” Lastly, if your situation provokes a great deal of negative emotion, if you’ve been confiding in a friend or family member, there is the risk that once you are feeling better, you could start avoiding that person, so you aren’t reminded of this difficult time in your life.
Why should not I take medication?
Medication alone cannot solve all issues. What medication does is treat the symptoms. Our work together is designed to explore the root of the issue, dig deep into your behavior and learn strategies to help you accomplish your relational goals. Medication can be effective and is sometimes needed in conjunction with therapy. If additional support is needed, I work closely with psychiatrists to help you find the best fit for your needs. Please follow your primary care physician and psychiatrist medical recommendations for your medications.
How does it work? What do I have to do in sessions?
Each individual and couple has different issues and goals for therapy. A thorough assessment is provided along with a personalized treatment plan and techniques that address your concerns and goals. It is essential to be open and willing to do the deep work of psychotherapy. I provide a customized and tailored holistic whole-person therapeutic approach to meet your specific needs for a meaningful and satisfying life.
How long will it take?
Unfortunately, this is not possible to say on a general FAQs page. Everyone’s circumstances are unique to them, and the length of time therapy can take to allow you to accomplish your goals depends on your desire for personal development, your commitment, and the factors that are driving you to seek therapy in the first place.
I want to get the most out of therapy. What can I do to help?
I am so glad you are dedicated to getting the most out of your sessions. Your active participation and dedication are crucial to your success. After all, we only see each other for a session a week. It’s the work you do outside of our sessions to really help you see your personal growth and development.
My partner and I are having problems. Should we be in individual counseling or come together?
If you are concerned about your relationship, and you would both like to work with me, I would initially work with both of you together. After this work, if one of you would like to continue in individual sessions, I could work with only one. It is not helpful to move from individual into couple’s work with the same therapist because of potential trust issues.
